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This is a briefing on my grief journey since losing my 17-year-old son Luke on November 18, 2019. I will not necessarily post daily, but my grief is daily. It's constant and never ending. Also not sure my writing will always be brief. Some topics I will likely explore in depth. But naming the blog "My Not So Daily And Not So Brief Briefing On My Grief" seemed too much, so I went with Evans Daily Griefing. 

Incidentally, I learned that "griefing" is a gamer term meaning the act of irritating and angering players. If my blog irritates or angers you, please feel free to discontinue reading and go back to gaming. My grief causes me irritation and anger too, and a whole range of emotions, and I'll be writing about all of it. Maybe with an occasional side of humor, because I can't do anything in life without a little humor, even grieving. 

This blog will likely be all over the place, much like my brain. Remember the commercials in the 80's - This is your brain (an egg). This is your brain on drugs (fried egg). Well, this is my brain on grief. Buckle up. It's a wild and bumpy ride. 


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